We’ve all either been that friend or experienced being out at a restaurant on a friday night and the waiter comes over asking if everyone’s ready to order and there’s usually one person who just can’t decide, “Can you come back in 5 minutes please, she’s not sure what she wants yet.”. Well I’ve definitely been the one to hold up the festivities due to to indecisiveness but when there’s so much on the menu what’s a girl to do.
But have you ever stopped to ask yourself what it is you want? Or better yet, What do I deserve? I’ll give you a second to ponder that…
To deserve – to have earned or to be given something because of the way you have behaved or the qualities you have.
For most people (including myself) this question can be hard to answer, trying to make a decision as to what are the most important characteristics you need in a potential partner/ friend and make a conscious decision to persue those things. Not just allowing things or people to float in and out of your life can be difficult because sometimes you look up and you’re surrounded by people and situations and you can’t even remember how you got there.
In this I’ve learnt that in order to attract what I want or even believe I need to review me first. Meaning:
- What kind of person am I?
- What do I like?
- What can I tolerate?
- What’s a no no?
- Am I portraying the same things I’m looking for?
If you can answer these questions honestly you will soon start to make decisions faster on who or what you want to share your time with and be in your space.
Always remember you are a precious gift to the world and you have something to offer don’t be out here giving yourself away for free, know what you want, stick to it and pursue those things and people.
Disclaimer: This does not by any means stop messy people from popping up from time to time but a solid foundation can always be built upon, meaning if you’re got some real friends/relationships in your life then you something to go back to, dust yourself off and start again. Oh and it won’t be easy either. Just saying but definitely worth it.
‘Heed the still small voice that so seldom leads us wrong, and never into folly.’
Marquise du Deffand