Run Forest! Run!

This is an impromptu post but I just wanted to get this on paper as it were.

Run! Run as fast as you can in the opposite direction of what’s trying to steal your joy and your peace mind.

Listen we all can get consumed with trying to do this and talk to them that we don’t listen to ourselves to our bodies saying “I don’t think we can take another blow from this guy… He’s not good for us, please let’s leave him alone” or “come on let’s go do something to make us happy it doesn’t matter what they said we need to laugh today”.

I just wanted to encourage you to listen to yourself and put yourself first every now and then, in most cases you usually end up saying “I wish I listened to myself” anyway.
So to reiterate. Run Forest. RUN!

Much Love

Female Frame x

Getting my sexy!

Woooh there calm down luv! Sexy that’s a bit out there isn’t it? YES! YES it is and it’s about time we get it and own it ladies. I’ve been so aware of the fact that by wearing certain things I might come across as being too sexy too blah blah blah but I feel there is a certain level of power that you feel when you put on some heels, slip on that dress that hugs you in all the right places and set out. YES! I love it and you should too.

I often see other females strutting their stuff down oxford street and think to myself, one day! Soon hopefully that will be me in heels on strutting my stuff but alas heels and me don’t get on most days, love them don’t get me wrong just in small doses. As I’ve strived to achieve this level of “feeling myself-ness” ( as Beyonce would put it) I’ve come to realise that there is more that one way to feel sexy.

You can feel sexy by just wearing a pair of jeans which show off all your curves with a baggy top and some trainers you don’t have to go to the opposite end of the spectrum  wearing a fitted dress, heels, makeup to achieve the stereotypical image of what sexy looks like. Everyone is unique and what might work for you what might not for someone else. Try out different styles and see what works and looks good on you. One thing to note is that you probably won’t be completely comfortable at first but in time the more you embrace this side of yourself the more it will come naturally to you.

If you need help in the style or make-up department Youtube is always a place to start there are lots of cookbooks from various Youtubers of all shape, sizes and ethnicities who you can get inspiration from also Tumblr and Instagram are good places to look.

I hope this post encourages you to give your sexy self some time to shine remember you don’t have to push your boobs up to the sky or show everything you have to offer, experiment with fashion give yourself the gift of spending time on you and see where it goes. No fear.

Sexy isn’t just about what you’re wearing it’s a feeling. Believe you are the bees knees and be the bees knees. That’s all. (Drops mic)

Sidenote: You don’t need a man to feel or be sexy. Just do it. Be your own bae! (Too much?…NAHHH!)

“You can be the lead in your own life.”

– Kerry Washington

Much Love

FemaleFrame x

Summer Body State of Mind

I know this may bit a bit early for this but the weather is warming up and I’m getting excited.

Are you in that summer body state of mind? Have to hit the gym twice maybe three times a week in the run up to the summer months? Don’t we all. I’m tired just thinking about it my local gym seems to be getting that little bit fuller,  granted I haven’t been as regularly as I should but I see I’m not the only one feeling the pressure.

Can I ask why this is? Why do we feel we need to look a certain way to achieve a level of bae-ness which will magically come about when we fit into that bikini or one piece (which ever you prefer) without our usual lumps and bumps, take some bomb pictures and live happily ever after. Now don’t get me wrong I’m all for fitness and striving for your best self as per my previous post but what’s so wrong with a little bit of extra on the side.

We don’t need to be a size 8-10 to have an amazing summer. We can wear that swimsuit and be fabulous, yes you may not be lumps and bump free but there are so many shapes, sizes and styles to fit all body types that you don’t have to feel like the odd one out but join the party and have that summer you’re always wanted. Create memories with loved ones and take those pictures that will be on rotation all the way through winter until summer comes upon us again.

I guess what I’m trying to say is enjoy every bit of you while you can, the good the bad and the lumpy. You may want your body to look a certain way and Im sure with hard work at the gym and so good food choices (which I’m still working on) will help you in that department but try and learn to be comfortable with who you are and what you look like, Tall, Skinny or with a little bit more loving around the sides.

Summer ’16 I hope you’re ready because we’re coming for ya! Turn UP!

“Everyone shines, given the right lighting.”

– Susan Cain

Much Love

FemaleFrame x

Becoming a little bit more like me…

2016 has been a little bit of a whirl wind so far, I mean we’re already in April! But I’m happy that the season is changing and getting a lot warmer but another thing changing this year is my out look on life and self.

I’ve been learning a lot about myself, what I like and dislike and when to speak up about certain things and when to let things go. This is good. I feel that in your twenties is the time to discover who you are as a person, what you believe in and what you want out of life and it’s definitely  the time to invest in yourself and take a few risks.

How does one get to this place of sudden clarity? Transitioning safely from teen years into adulthood with a whole world of unanswered questions and expectations placed on you to be great ( which you will be give yourself time). I don’t think there is one full proof route one has to take to suddenly become the person they’ve always wanted to be, we’re all uniquely individual and have experienced different things in life which make us in turn think and approach situations differently. Embrace that, it’s what makes you different from everyone else.

Here are some tips which I have found recently which might just steer you in the right direction though.

  1. If it feels wrong, don’t do it.
  2. Say “exactly” what you mean.
  3. Don’t be a people pleaser.
  4. Trust your instincts
  5. Never speak badly about yourself.
  6. Never give up on you dreams. ( No matter how big or scary it might seem, go for it anyway. Better is the view from the top of the mountain than the bottom! Climb that sucka!)
  7. Don’t be afraid to say “no”.
  8. Don’t be afraid to say “yes”.
  9. Resist the need to always have control.
  10. Stay away from drama and negativity – as much as possible.

Source via Tumblr: Lessons Learned in Life

Some of these you probably already knew but just needed a little reminder which is sometimes all you need. Give yourself the environment and the chance to grow to become the person you know you can be and while you’re on this journey embrace the person you are now. They’ve helped you to get to where you are today.

Embrace your entire frame, body, mind and beauty. Give it a go.

“I try to live in a little bit of my own joy and not let people steal it or take it.”

-Hoda Kotb

Much Love

FemaleFrame x

Buy Me Flowers!

Yes! I want hearts, flowers and all the nice things I see people in relationships with like the hand holding, going to the movies, buying each other gifts. HEY! Buy Me Flowers!!!

That’s all well and good but have you ever thought to buy yourself a bouquet or just get dressed and going to see that film you’ve been waiting to see. Don’t wait for that elusive perfect partner to arrive stage right to make yourself feel special. How did I come to this realisation you ask? Well…

One day as I scrolled through Instagram (as you do) I came across a picture of a beautiful lady holding a bunch of flowers, so I tapped the image and read the caption. To paraphrase, in an attempt to try and make herself feel good she bought herself some flowers and loved the reality of waking up to the sight and smell of flowers made her feel. This then led me to think, ‘Why am I waiting for someone else to give me ‘hearts and flowers’ ? or whatever that maybe for you, I mean I have a job that pays me (it would be a shame if it didn’t lol) why can’t I make it happen for myself.

This is not to discredit those special moments within the context of a relationship but what if I never experience that should I miss out on my flowers?

So to end this post I challenge you to do something whether it’s getting dressed up and taking yourself out, buying your favourite flowers or just spending some quiet time alone, make sure you do something that will make YOU feel good about YOU!

“The challenge is not to be perfect…it’s to be whole.”

– Jane Fonda

Much Love

FemaleFrame x